Just as you have set the children down for a moment of rest, after wiping peanut butter off of every flat surface in the kitchen and putting the fourth load of laundry to wash again because it was forgotten in the washer and has now become musty smelling… I want to remind you that you are beautiful.
The work that is done behind the scenes just so life can run smoothly is important work. Did you learn this juggling act in school? Probably not. Did you learn the art of nursing a baby while helping your 2-year-old go potty and in the midst of sing-alongs with your 4-year-old? Not likely. But here you are, doing important work.
“The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” ~William Ross Wallace.
It is a season. Those years when your little ones are growing, developing and formulating their perspective of the world will pass by in the blink of an eye, so slow down and just be in that season. There will never be anyone better at being your children’s mother than you. It doesn’t mean it is easy. It requires waking up a bit earlier than the brood to spend some time in prayer, collecting your thoughts and even getting in some exercise. This sounds like a tall order, especially if you are still waking up in the middle of the night with babies, but trust me, the discipline of an early alarm clock for precious quiet time will save your sanity. You will find that you can get a better grip on your day, your spirit and your health when you put this little tip into practice.
It is not selfish, it is self-preservation. Keep your own cup full so that you can pour out love and goodness to your babies.
Society has changed so much in the past few decades and stay-at-home-moms now seem to be viewed as those who have a luxurious privilege, but truthfully, who better than a child’s mother to know the heart of a child and guide the shaping of their character? Today’s families are so busy and often juggle the caretaking responsibilities of the children. Everyone thinks someone else is watching the littles and frequently the needful guiding hand is not available to truly help the child arrive safely to adulthood.
I won’t pretend that I understand your family dynamics, or what best fits your finances, but I will tell you this, you will never regret dedicating your time to be fully present during the young years of your child(ren)’s lives. Fulfillment in a career can come at a different time in life. Does it mean that you cannot have your own personal interests? I don’t think so. Those motherhood years can be ones that you develop skills in cooking, organizing, writing, gardening, floral arranging, teaching (you are teaching your children every day- degree or not), photography, sewing and even develop leadership skills as you volunteer for organizations pertaining to your children’s activities. When my children were very young, I would go to the library and check out every book I could get my hands on in a particular subject, like floral arranging or bread-making, and use resources at home to hone these new skills. Those were some of the most enriching years. The children often learned right alongside of me.
Perhaps not a one will read this simple musing, but the thought begged to be written out. Mommies are irreplaceable. If you are having a difficult day, or it seems like you will never find yourself again amongst the endless duties of mommy-hood, rest assured, this is a season, and you are doing the most important work of your life.
Tasha Brickhouse, RD, LD/N
Tasha Brickhouse, RD, LD/N